And then my soul saw you and it kind of went

"Oh, there you are."

 
 
 

BELOW YOU WILL FIND RESOURCES

Since our first months as a married couple, we decided not to purchase internet or Netflix. We instead put $20 to $50 a paycheck into an account labeled “Adoption.” It has been a priority to pursue with hands wide open.

Over dinner at our two year anniversary we agreed to being the adoption journey by year five of marriage. It was mid-year four He began building adoption into our story in tangible ways.

I don’t know there is anything more like God’s heart than adoption: adopting strangers and trauma into your family and home.

Adoption has opened us up wide, cracked our hearts, and grown us insurmountably.

In the posts of this category, you will find both fear and hope, vulnerability and transparency, and a lot of the journey as we go.

Join us as we walk through this tragically beautiful life.

UPDATE: January 6, 2016 our sweet Sage was born. We met him January 8, 2016 and brought him home with us to Oregon January 19. You will find many posts. Here is The Story of Our Match.


When we began our adoption journey, I did not know much. Now I know more. Now I will do better and continue to learn and listen.

adoption RESOURCES

The Process

Don’t Start Your Adoption Journey Until You’ve Read This [on Adoption.com]

Adoption 101: Positive Adoption Language

The Problem with Adoption: Ethics. [by Stacey Stark; I recommend all of her ethics posts]

How to Answer Ignorant Questions about Your Adoptive Family [on Adoption.com]

The Choices You Have To Make When You Adopt [on Adoption.com]

Financing Adoption With Fundraising free ebook 

 Adopt Without Debt Book

7 Ways To Adopt Without Going Into Debt [on Adoption.com]

When Your Spouse Is Hesitant To Adopt Or Foster [on Adoption.com]

Different Routes to Adopt [on BabyPrepping.com]

How To Be “You” In Your Adoption Profile [by Shelley Skuster]

FIVE TIPS FOR GETTING THROUGH THE ADOPTION PROCESS [a video]

A Podcast with NB on Confessions of An Adoptive Parent's Honestly Speaking: The Stuff I Learned About Loss

From Adoptees

The Adopted Life Series by Angela Tucker

Transracial Adoptee Angela Tucker Shares Her Story [on Adoption.com]

Interview With Michelle Madrid-Branch, Author And Foster Care/International Adoptee [on Adoption.com]

An Interview With An Adoptee: Adoption Is A Part Of My Identity [on Adoption.com]

Adoptee And Adoptive Mother Lisa Joyner To Host New TLC Show [on Adoption.com]

Will My Child Resent Me If I Choose To Place Him For Adoption? Another Look [on Adoption.com]
…Though he acknowledges that adoption hasn’t always been easy, Jesse has nothing but love and respect for his birth parents.

Will My Child Resent Me if I Choose to Place Him for Adoption? [on Adoption.com]
…A now-adult adoptee shares her answer to this pressing question.

What An Adoptee Wants The World To Know About Adoption– A Podcast

YOUR HEART As an ADOPTIve Parent / Info To Share with your family

Adoption 101: Positive Adoption Language

Adoption Is Not Made of Heroes [on Adoption.com]

HOW TO GO FROM FEARING TO CELEBRATING OPEN ADOPTION

Adoption: Do Your Research [Interview with Rachel Garlinghouse]

A Letter To Expectant Mamas And Adoptive Parents As You Wait [on Adoption.com]

Why Humility Is An Essential Component in All Adoptions [on Adoption.com]

How to Answer Ignorant Questions about Your Adoptive Family [on Adoption.com]

Adoption Is Not What I Thought It Was [on Adoption.com]

Adoption Shaming Has To Stop [on Adoption.com]

Stop Using You're Adopted As An Insult [on Adoption.com]

To My Friends Who Are Foster Parents [Adoption.com]

Why Are Men So Resistant To Adoption? (Dads and Adoption Part 1) A Podcast

On Openness Adoption / Birth Family relationships

A video by a birth mother

HOW TO GO FROM FEARING TO CELEBRATING OPEN ADOPTION

I Am Not Afraid of My Son's Birth Family [on TODAY Show Parenting]

To My Son's Birth Mother On Birth Mother's Day

Meeting My Son's Birth Mom In The Hospital [on Adoption.com]

Interview with foster care adoptee Michelle Madrid Brach

I Miss My Son’s Birth Mom [on Adoption.com]

To My Son’s Birth Dad [on Adoption.com]

Why Humility Is An Essential Component in All Adoptions [on Adoption.com]

An Interview With A Birth Mother: My Choice To Place [on Adoption.com]

Six Tips To Balancing Multiple Birth Families [by Shelley Skuster]

Why We Include Birth Families In Family Photos [Shelley Skuster]

The Differences Between Open Adoption And Closed Adoption [by Shelley Skuster]

How Do I Maintain Respect For A Birthparent When Their Choices Are So Bad?– A Podcast

On Virtual Twins

Are They Twins? | Raising Virtual Twins [on Adoption.com]

Costco Trips With My Virtual Twins [on Adoption.com]

Cheers to Our Journey With Artificial Twins

What You Need To Know About My Almost Twins [on Pregnant Chicken]

On Transracial Adoption/adopting outside of your race

In Their Own Voices: Transracial Adoptees Tell Their Stories

QUESTIONS FOR POTENTIAL WHITE TRANSRACIAL ADOPTIVE PARENTS

BLACK CULTURE + HAIR CARE ARE ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY: RAISING KIDS OF COLOR

Rhonda Roorda's blog

7 Ways To Celebrate Your Child’s Race [on Adoption.com]

Why Humility Is An Essential Component in All Adoptions [on Adoption.com]

Honoring Your Child’s Birth Culture: Cultural Art To Add to Your Home [on Adoption.com]

How to Answer Ignorant Questions about Your Adoptive Family [on Adoption.com]

Kids books for your library

Adoption Books | Review of Just Really Joseph By Kayla Craig [on Adoption.com]

How To Successfully Raise A Multi-Racial Family In A Not-So-Multi-Racial World– A podcast

Facebook Group: Not Just Hair: The intersection of hair/skincare and transracial adoption

Facebook Group: {Joyfilled} Prospective Transracial Families

Facebook Group: Joy filled Transracial Families

On Attachment + Bonding

What Is Cocooning? Should I Try It With My Adopted Child? [on Adoption.com]

Dealing With Family While Trying To Cocoon Your Child [on Adoption.com]

 My Child’s Attachment Disorder Is Taking The Life Out Of Me– A Podcast

High Needs + Prenatal Trauma

Should My Child Go To Therapy? [on Adoption.com]

Practical Strategies To Help Parents Who Are Raising Children With FASD–  A Podcast

 My Child’s Attachment Disorder Is Taking The Life Out Of Me– A Podcast