Today is the day, ladies. Men, if you're reading, don't you dare hold this over her head, but be blessed with her heart.
I know that as a childless newlywed I have a lot to learn from life. But today, I see the high importance of this. Today, I note that physically blessing my husband is a top priority. I have learned that when we are intimate, my heart feels closer to his and he is much more serving towards me. Not that it is a if-this, then-that transaction; but his heart is softened, his muscles relaxed, and he is able to clearly think of ways to serve me.
Jennifer said: "Did you know that the way you respond (or don’t respond) to your husband’s romantic overtures has a profound effect on his self-confidence? Don’t slap him away when he tries to hug you or make excuses when he’s in the mood. Your enthusiastic cooperation and reciprocation will not only assure him of your love, but will make him feel well-respected, too."
Wives: you are beautiful. You are wonderfully made. Your husband delights in your body. I am nowhere near great at remembering this, but I do work hard to remind myself. Nothing is attractive about, "Oh but my hips. Oh but my inner thigh. Oh butt..." Loren made a rule in our home: no dissing our bodies. He gets real angry if I complain about myself. Honestly, isn't there so much more to life that we need to think about? Bless your husband by seeing the beauty he sees - and if you don't see it, bless him by trying to and shutting your mouth about it. There are some extremely curvy women who are SEX-Y! How? Because they rock what they've got. They walk in the beauty that has been given to them. Can we trust that Jesus has made us beautifully?
I beg you to read this article, written by a man. It should open your eyes and bless your marriage. Ten Things Every Husband Wishes His Wife Knew About Sex. One quote I absolutely loved was: "If your husband is working hard to avert his eyes from every other sexual source besides his wife, not viewing any porn, not checking out the girl on the billboard, etc - he has a God-given need/desire/appetite to admire his wife’s naked body."
Today I will be sure not to push Loren away when he hugs me while I am attempting to do the dishes or cook dinner. I will be sure to soak in that love and affection, noting how precious I am to his heart.
Today's verse is huge and plays in my head so frequently: 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 "The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control."