"If you want your husband to lead, you must be willing to follow. Neither a body nor a family can function well with two heads. Learn to defer to your husband’s wishes and let final decisions rest with him." -Jennifer Flanders
I asked Loren what it means to follow him. This is what he said: "To encourage me to get excited about things, to encourage me to dream because I am not very good at it. Trusting me." How can I show you that I trust you? "By getting exciting about my ideas; when they aren't just my dreams and ideas, it shows that you trust me because you are getting on board with them."
I guarantee that your husband's response will be different, so I encourage you to ask him. So often we don't take advantage of the most simplest ways to grow; we don't spend the 3 minutes to ask our husbands, "Hunk of burning love, what does it look like for me to respect you on a day to day basis?" That is the #1 most effective way to find out how to serve your husband in his unique way. All humans were created so differently and although I am sure each man has similar needs in the area of respect, I am certain that they differ slightly. Ask your husband: do him the favor of loving him by respecting him, by caring enough to ask him how to do so.
This beautiful scripture is so often read so incorrectly. But today, internalize this:
"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord." Ephesians 5:22
I am so proud of each of you wives who have truly stuck with me on this adventure of 25 Days of Building Respect. It isn't hard to humble ourselves and put others first; especially those who have access to hurt us so deeply. I pray that each of you were blessed in your heart of hearts and that you continue building these habits. Ask your husband how you served him well that day and how you could have done better - and please, please don't snap back at him when you ask for an honest answer. Make it a safe place for him to love you by being honest. That may take time, but consistently improving the way we react and approach will build that safe place.
I love each of you ladies. I am proud of you. Keep up the honor of working on our wifery, for the bettering of this world. I am convinced that as we serve our husbands at 100%, expecting 0%, our marriages will flourish. Then, our children will be raised in homes covered in love. Let's change the world. Oh, friends! Let's do this.
For the glory of God.